Becoming Irresistible: Three Admirable Qualities
So sitting with a cup of warm green tea, I remembered one of my lectures who is very likeable and just too good. So I asked myself, “What really make this dude very admirable?” Well, so many qualities came to my mind – relevant and irrelevant kinds of stuff. I became more serious with the thought. Then I began to examine critically the traits I admire in some people that I consider their characters very likeable. Gradually, I noted some of them down, then began to eliminate the ones that were either not too prominent in their lives or not very relevant.
Furthermore, I asked myself: “do other very likeable people possess similar qualities?” After a while, I shouted Eureka! Actually, the likeable people I know, have something common in them. They possess three qualities that made their personality irresistible. I decided to put these thoughts down. The thoughts here are very personal and not an objective model. However, I think that it can be objective if examined critically.
3 Admirable Qualities
Humility is the mother of all virtues. It is the pivot of knowledge and kindness. It is the belief that you are not yet a finished product. Rather, you are eager to learn more, to develop more, to understand more, and to be humane the more. People who exhibit humility have a way of entering our hearts with their gentle attitude of curiosity. They remain stoic in the face of their own problems and remind themselves that life can be lived when you understand that the other person is struggling just like you.
Humility is not low self-esteem. They are two different things. A humble person knows his position, capability and respects that. He does not go to arrogate things that are beyond him or try to cut his coat beyond his size. A humble person does not go to eat sand with a fellow because he wants to demonstrate humility. No! He rather would help that fellow in a very humane way to get up from sand and find a better life. He has in his heart the desire to uplift rather than belittle.
The humble person when in leadership position becomes a servant. He doesn’t eat until others must have eaten. He is always after the upliftment of others because he understands their weaknesses. Humble leaders are graceful leaders. Look at the life of Jesus and his relationship with his guys. He knelt down and washed their dirty feet! Judas who betrayed him and Peter who denied him were not exempted.
Knowledge begins with curiosity, it is the ability to ask questions and seek answers. Philosophers are called lovers of wisdom because they are askers of questions – they are curious. Curiosity is the hunger to know. From the subject matter of culture to politics, to religion, technology and even spirituality. It is the bedrock of every great achievement.
Achievers are curious people. Entrepreneurs are curious people. That is why they become investors, business leaders, CEOs of great companies and great spiritual masters. This is because they activate the seeker mode in them. They enter the field and the street, not minding dirtying their hand and clothes in search of that treasure they have envisioned.
Curious people always have an open mind. It has its connection to humility. It takes humility to ask questions. Curious people take time to seek information, absorb it and be creative with the data at hand. They are not satisfied with the ordinary. They see the world to be too large for them to remain tied down to a myopic enclosure.
This is the most unassuming and yet the most precious quality anyone could possess for every relationship. It shuns segregation, sectionalism and prejudice. Emphatic people are genuine people who really care and find a way of making a tense person calm. They are compassionate, seek out the other and have a large heart to accommodate their mistakes.
Almost all religions teach their adherents the need to be emphatic to others. Some religions even extend that to animals. The question is, why is it difficult for two or more religions to stay together in a place without hating and fighting each other. They lack empathy.
The world is so harsh and hard. So many people are struggling, getting angry and feeling unloved. The world needs more emphatic people these days. The unique ability to understand the world through the lens of love shown to others is what will heal the wounds that wickedness and hate have created in the world. Everyone should endeavour to build up this kind of quality. For that will make the world a safe and better place to live in.
These three qualities interlink with each other. It is not a coincidence. Humility, Curiosity and Empathy are the tripartite qualities of the tripartite composition of the human person. With humility, you see yourself, with curiosity you see others and with empathy you create a bond between yourself and every other living creature. The three go together, one cannot just be on its own. The humble, curious, but indifferent person is difficult to stay with. The humble, disgruntled, and empathetic person is subtle but not engaging. The proud, but curious, empathetic person is a noise maker who glories in self-aggrandizement. The three qualities are better seen together. It is when they are brought together that we become a sweet person. An irresistible personality that everyone will like to stick to, and a treasure to the world that is seriously lacking in these admirable qualities.
In my reflection, I noticed that the people I considered their personality very irresistible all possess these qualities. They are the kind of persons I want around me and I want to mingle with. If I am to hire an employee, look for a date or just make friends, these are the qualities I look out for. As a person, I am also working myself towards becoming such a sweet person also. I feel that we all can follow suit, after all, we all should be sweet persons in different capacities. I dare you to become an irresistible person today, and see your social circle and environment change for the better.
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