10 Bitter Truths you Cannot Change: Don’t Bother Trying
The bitter truth is that there are some things that you cannot change, even if you try. Hitting your head against the wall over them will not do you any good for that will be keeping yourself uncomfortable. Patience and determination would have been relevant if the objects you are working so hard to reach is actually feasible. Below are the lists of bitter truths you cannot change. Don’t bother trying.
10 Bitter Truths
You will surely die
As sad as that may make you feel, you will not live forever. We do not even know what forever means and how long is forever. So forget about living forever, because you will surely die. The best thing we can do for ourselves now is to take care of ourselves – physically and spiritually. So many of us take things too seriously without taking care of the basic things of life. We skip a vacation, stay off our family and work ourselves to our graves. Some of us risk all of life itself just to gain mundane pleasure that will not stay beyond 100 years. After all the worries and struggles, what do we make out of it? The best thing for us is to take the chill pill, relax our nerves and enjoy the good things of life. The beauty of nature, the smile of a child, the joke of the aged and live happily with others. Lighten up, do not push yourself so hard. All those struggles will be gone one day and all that is left to remember will be the sweet memories you imprint in the heart of humanity.
You cannot please everyone
I’m sorry to say this, but that is the blunt truth. You cannot please everyone, you are not an ice-cream (lol). Just stop wasting your time about that. Striving to make everyone happy is a life-sucking endeavour that you cannot afford.
No matter what you do, you cannot just please everyone. Jesus could not. In fact, he displeased more people than he pleased them during his life on earth. Even if you try to walk on the sea like Jesus, people will say that it is because you cannot swim that’s why you walked on the sea. You see, it’s not worth it.
Someone will always be better
No matter how cute, sexy-shaped, how smart, and rich you are, someone will always be better than you. There will always be that dude with a more superior car, a more magnanimous house, a better job, a sexier partner, a better certificate, etc. Quit wasting time trying to be someone else. It is a waste of effort trying to fit into another person’s shoes.
You are unique and cute just the way you are. Black is beautiful, you don’t need bleaching creams. Fair is beautiful, you don’t need to apply charcoal to be dark. Slim is sexy and fat is sexy. The recent body shaming that is trending in the society does no one any good. Some ladies think they have to be shaped like Kim Kardashian to be sexy. Some guys think that they have to build-up like David Beckham to be cute. Do all you can, someone somewhere will always be better than you. There is no competition in life.
Holding that grudge will never have any effect
Someone offends you and you are bearing grudge against that person in your heart. How does that make you feel? Well, if you feel better, keep it up. But indeed, it is a waste of living energy to keep a grudge. Why would anyone prolong his/her pain and unhappiness? That’s what grudge does to you.
Next time when someone offends you, speak it out. Get angry and express it politely and in the spirit of love. After that, brush all that aside and have a good night sleep. Even the bible times us, “do not let bitterness lead you into sin, the sunset should not find you still angry”Eph 4:26. Forgiveness is freedom. Not just for the person that wronged you, but for yourself.
You cannot control what someone else thinks
I remember when I used to waste my time and energy thinking about what someone else would have in mind about me. Then, I would be looking out for clues through the person’s action. When the person looks at me, I will be like, “what bad is she thinking of me now o”. Lol.
It’s a waste of think trying to control what people think. You can suggest, demand from them or mere imagine what they have up their sleeves, but you cannot permeate the autonomy of a person’s mind. As unpleasant as that may seem, you cannot make someone love you or forgive you. You cannot win a person’s respect if he/she is not willing to give it to you. Relax and move on.
You cannot bring back yesterday
I know how progressive science is, but as for bringing back yesterday, just forget it. There is no rewind, no undo, we cannot go back. Yesterday is gone and gone for good. So why do we waste our time dwelling in the past, as if we can change any of our actions and inactions of the past? Move ahead to the future, for yesterday is gone.
You cannot change the world
Oh yeah, we all know that inspirational quote: “you can change the world”. Let me explain, the world you can change is just the micro-world around you. That is what you can change. But as for the universal world, oh dear, it is bigger than you. Just make a positive difference in your immediate environment and in places and areas where you can. That is okay.
You cannot change where you come from
You cannot do anything to change where you come from or the circumstances surrounding your birth and background. It is not under your control. You might travel out of your environment and nationalize elsewhere, yet it doesn’t change the history of where you originally come from. As much as I do not like my country, I cannot change the fact that it is my country even if I move to California and spend my entire life there. I cannot change the circumstances surrounding my birth, no matter how much I wish it.
You are not indispensable
I understand how important you are. I understand how your family and country needs you. But excuse me, you are not indispensable. Drop dead today, and see that the world will keep moving. The position you occupy will be taken over by someone else. That job you think you are the sole brain behind it, if you die today, there will someone who will come and even do better than you did.
From the Pope to the last lay faithful; from Donald Trump to the last American; from Buhari to the last Nigerian, no one is indispensable. Be humble, you are not too important. The world can do without you.
Privacy is a myth
Do not be surprised but the thing is that nothing is really private any more. There is nothing we can do about it. In fact, as technology keeps improving, privacy will keep eroding away. With the Internet, your emails, use of phones and all that tell your stories. Just know that nothing is really private and conduct yourself becomingly, if you do not want the skeletons in your cupboard to be opened one day.
Some people will resist these bitter truths and try to become control managers. They will think that they can control everything or be in charge of everything. Some will think they can prevent bad things from happening or that they can be too careful. Sorry, these bitter truths are for you. You cannot help it. What then do you do? I will tell you in my next post.
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