You can Deal with a Difficult Boss
Finally, God has heard your prayers. You have been offered that job opportunity you have always wanted. It’s now your first day at work. Sitting and arranging your table, your boss walks in. He looks steadily at you and asks: “Do not tell me you have come here to lazy about”, and he walks away. He’s judgemental look keeps weighing you down all day. Do I have to deal with a difficult boss all my life? You ask yourself.
Well, No! Dealing with a difficult boss is not a mystery equation. It is something you can do tactically and here, we are discussing how do deal with a difficult boss. Before then, you have to understand the type of boss you are working for and his class of person.
Category of Bosses
You need to understand what you are dealing with before you know how to deal with it. This category is to help you place your difficult boss where he belongs.
The Narcissistic Boss
This is the egoistic, self-serving and self-admiring kind of boss. He usually will take all the glories for the work done by his team but he will push blames to his teammates for any fault encountered.
This type is also emotionally draining. He will want to feed on the emotional energy of his co-workers and will ensure he wins every argument. Not as if he wins by logical points, but by shouting down on the co-worker to make him/her feel inferior. This type of boss loves to embarrass his co-workers because that is the only way they feel superior and important.
To such a boss, stop wasting your energy trying to prove your point; you will only encourage him to belittle you the more. Just focus on the crucial part of your job and earn the trust of your co-workers. It will not take time for that boss to understand you are right, after all; even if he may not say it out.
The All-round Busy Boss
This is the type of boss that simply drops in, gives you a responsibility you have to get ready soonest, and then zooms off. He is busy with one thing or the other, at times things that do not have to do with the growth of the company – personal affairs. Now you finish the job and keep looking around for the boss to come and approve it. He then comes in gain, shifts some of his responsibilities to you, making you have a higher workload than you should have had.
Handling this kind of boss is difficult as you cannot tell them how to do their job or confront them. Although it may be difficult, yet efforts should be made to notify the boss that his/her presence is needed in the organization for the progress of the firm. It may also help by telling the busy boss that your current job is affected by the several responsibilities added to you.
The Snooping Boss
Imagine a situation whereby you are working but then your boss stands behind you pointing fingers and directing you on what to do at each point. This type of boss will always make suggestions that he will want to be taken immediately. In that process, your creativity feels damped and your development becomes hindered. It can be very frustrating as an employee to lose your freedom to snooping boss.
In such a situation, it is good for you to become proactive and smart about the job so you can finish or do a major part of the job become the boss comes in with those annoying suggestions. Again, you need to be patient with such a boss, and if possible encourage him/her to go to his/her (the boss) office and rest, so that you bring the work to him/her there after you are done. If all things fail, then you may have to confront the boss politely and explain why he/she should trust your creativity and judgement. Ask him/her politely to offer his/her feedback when you are done with the job.
The Unruly Boss
This is the type of boss that is always chaotic. He/she shouts up and down the walkway and makes everywhere tensed. While we all sometimes experience a bad mood, the unruly boss has it as a permanent state of emotion. Apologizing to such a boss even when you have done nothing wrong can seem like a solution, but over time, it will lead to more outburst and he/she might use that as a permanent way of getting loyalty from co-workers.
To deal with this type of boss, you need to get to the root of the situation and understand why he/she is always in a volatile mood. If there is a specific standard of work ethic he needs like, punctuality, giving feedback on-time and managing deadlines, you need to understand it and work towards that. Improving in those ways can send a signal to him/her that you are actually doing your best.
You need these qualities
After placing your boss in the category where he/she belongs, you then follow the next step.
You need to imbibe some qualities that will help you deal with your difficult boss. These qualities will help you even outside your workplace in dealing with difficult people generally.
1. Don’t judge so quickly
Sometimes we make assumptions about a person and end up making a hasty conclusion about who they are. It is important you give your boss some time. Analyse his personality and understand if his/her action and reaction is a way of life or maybe as a result of mood swing.
If your boss is a perfectionist, understand him/her as such and see how you will develop your talents to meet up requirements. However, if after all your efforts you still see him/her as cold and damp as stone, then indeed your boss is a difficult person. In sum, remember not to judge him/her so quickly.
2. Exhibit influential qualities
Bosses always look out to work with people that have efficient and effective qualities. Your boss may be one of them. Thus, it will be good if you exhibit such qualities. Show up to work on time, be smart about your job and proactive. These can affect the way your boss see you. Demonstrate a high level of competence and responsibility in your job. However, when thing remains shaky, employ the next step – patience.
3. Be patient
When the office is tense when the boss is shouting up and down, remain calm. Two persons do not get mad at the same time. Just listen to his grievances and remain calm. A calm personality demonstrates your level of maturity and can solve so many unforeseen problems for you. A calm personality will humble your boss to understand that you have a better way of controlling the emotions that he/she does. It will surely affect positively the way your boss sees you. So next time you have such a confrontation by your boss, just be patient. Study the situation at hand and make your judgements from a calm and mature mindset.to a temper tantrum.
4. Respond do not React
If there is really a need to talk back to your boss, it shouldn’t be a reaction, rather, a response. A response comes from a calm and sane mindset. Take a deep breath if your adrenaline has also gotten high. Talk slowly and with deep calmness, responding to what you should respond to and never reacting. There are those who enjoy manipulating others. Ensure that your boss does not manipulate your emotions as such.
5. Listen Keenly
It is possible that your boss has got a very important point he/she is making at that point. Just listen keenly to that. You are in a career to learn and develop for the next opportunity, not to fight your boss. Consequently, keep an open mind. At the same time, you do not have to accept what your boss is saying if it belittles you. Just listen and discard such kinds of stuff later. Find a way of calming your boss down. Remember that you can have a cordial relationship with your boss even with your individual differences in opinions and ideas.
Always be a better employee before you judge your boss. Some people will become the same thing they criticize when they occupy a position of power. Do not be one of such. Do not treat younger staff bad because your boss treated you that way when you were younger. Let every experience you pass through make you a better person so that you can transfer that goodness you have gotten from that bad experience to other people.
Remember, you can deal with a difficult boss.