Facing your Discouragements – Part 1
One day three young frogs were out of their pond, exploring their environment. They came to the dairy. There was a bucket before them. Eager to know what’s in the bucket, two of them fell inside it. Splash! The third being ever so timid, only jumped to the top rim of the bucket and look down on his comrades as they struggle to jump out of the white substance inside the bucket they fell into. Neither he nor the two in there knew the substance was milk.
After some failed attempts on their part, he shouted down to them, “Guys, you will never make it. Face the fact and surrender to death”. But then since self-preservation is the natural instinct of all animals, they continued to make efforts as much as they could. The frog on the top rim of the bucket kept shouting down, “You will never make it guys, just give up”. Feeling defeated, one of the struggling frogs surrendered and gradually disappeared below the surface and was never found again.
The one remaining continued to struggle despite the discouraging comments he gets. After a short while, his feet had a soft yellow substance to stand on. He had made butter out of the cream on top of the milk. No sooner had he enough for a foothold than he positioned himself and humped out of the bucket. He thanked the other frog for all the encouraging cheers he was giving him while he was there. He would never have made it without his help, he told the frog.
It was later realized that the frog that survived was deaf.
Everybody manages discouragement sooner or later in their life. It’s a piece of what makes the human experience rich—the highs and the lows. If we don’t encounter the lows, at that point we wouldn’t appreciate the highs.
Discouragement, frustration, disappointment, and mishaps—these are things that can help us if we maintain an empowering attitude. The key is to learn from this experience and use them as a means of growth in life. So whenever you begin to feel discouraged, here is the thing that you ought to do:
Take the long view.
Discouragements, by and large, happens when our desires (what we think ought to occur) don’t line up with the real world (what really occurs). Much of the time our desires are unrealistic and this often has to do with how long we think things should happen. If we take a more extended view and loosen up our desires a bit, it can truly diminish discouragements. Actually, most things that are advantageous require a ton of efforts and time to work out as intended. So be still and keep working it out.
Keep in mind, there is no such thing as a disappointment. There is just training.
When we have a feeling that we have failed at something, discouragement normally follows. In any case, disappointment doesn’t generally exist, aside from the interpretation that we give it. In the event that we don’t get the outcome that we need, when we need it, we simply need to make a new move. We can choose, rather than considering disappointment terrible, to consider disappointment as a training, and subsequently an opportunity to do better. When we see it along these lines we understand that disappointment isn’t something that is awful or something to have stayed away from. It is simply feedback. It is basically training.
Remain consistent with our vision. See it again in our psyche.
If we are feeling disheartened, consider our vision. Consider what we need to make in our life. See it unmistakably. Feel what it would feel like if the picture came into the real world. What might this mean for us? How might we feel. When we see it and feel it, we will likewise feel engaged and our discouragement will fizzle away.
Try not to give our ego a chance to impede our improvement.
Our ego is frequently the essential driver of our feelings of dissatisfaction and discouragements. It doesn’t need to be like this. We can control our personality. When we do this, we are on the way of development. When we are internally strong enough to deal with feedbacks, and criticisms, we give ourselves the opportunity for development. Development prompts joy. When we are developing we feel better, and we aren’t discouraged.
Quit comparing ourselves with others. We’re unique.
A 100% ensured approach to get disheartened is to concentrate on other individuals in a comparative way. Here is the reason: we, for the most part, observe their triumphs, victories, and qualities. We see what they have and what we don’t. We see why they are superior to us. When we do this we get debilitated and we feel frustrated about ourselves. We don’t as effectively observe their battles, their feelings of dread, their misfortunes, and their disappointments. So don’t do it. It isn’t engaging. Try not to look at. We are unique and on our own path. It is incredible to be enlivened by another, however, on the off chance that by hearing another’s story, we feel that we are lesser, at that point, we have to simply concentrate without anyone else way.