Orange of Grudge Makes no Juice
My grand dad was a hunter. He has a special way of catching monkeys. He will slice a coconut in two, hollow it out and in one half of the shell, he cuts a hole big enough for a monkey’s hand to pass through. Then he will place an orange in the other half coconut before fastening together the two halves of the coconut shell. Finally, he secures the coconut to a tree branch with a rope. Then he hangs around to wait for the monkey that will be trapped.
It will not be long before an unsuspecting monkey would come by. Perceiving the aroma of the orange, he will discover that it is inside the coconut. The monkey then slips his hand through the small hole, grabs the orange and then tries to pull it through the hole. But then the orange cannot come out because the hole is too small for it. The persistent monkey will continue to struggle with the orange to no avail. He doesn’t realize that he is a trap. In the middle of this struggle, my granddad would throw a net over him and captures him. It obviously does not occur to the monkey that he cannot have the orange and his freedom at the same time. If he wants to save his life, he has to let go of the orange.
Sometimes we are trapped by the grudge we hold against another person or group of persons. Consequently, we become unprogressive in our relationship with them. These grudges and prejudices can come from our families, tribes or learned habits. Wherever or however it came to be, we have let go of them and be free.
No matter how we try to squeeze the orange of grudge, it cannot produce any juice. As long as we keep on nursing a grudge, it will continue to grow. It will get to an extent when it will begin to diminish us till we disappear into the tiny air.
No matter what the other person must have done, you have to forgive. Forgiveness has a way setting us free also. When we hold another person bound through unforgiveness, we are also holding ourselves bound. Jesus advised us to forgive seventy times seven times. That means that our forgiveness should have to limit.
The scriptures advice us that we should avoid resentment and not let it lead us into sin. When you get angry, confront the issue there and then let go of it. There is no need keeping it to heart and judging subsequent action of the other person from that perspective.
Ask before you judge:
At times, the problem we have is that we do not ask before we start passing judgment. If only we had asked, our view of some things may change. Thus, when you don’t understand the reason a person acted in a particular, try and ask the person if you can. If you cannot ask, then there is no need for passing judgment on the person. You might be wrong in your assumption.
Prejudice limits you:
So many of us have innate prejudices and biases for some tribes, languages, and other related kinds of stuff. These prejudices limit our relationship with the persons involves. By so doing, we can never get to see how sweet they are. Judging people based on the judgment of other people about them is an injustice. Try putting yourself in their shoes. What if people judge you based on the false judgment of others, how will that make you feel. Instead of prejudice, let us give each person a benefit of the doubt and relate with them freely until they act otherwise. Grudge is one of the things you have to avoid in life.