You can catch the fire again
There was once a time when you had the fire in you. When you felt you could take the world in your arms. A time your zeal was 99.99% and you felt you could achieve anything you have set your mind to achieve. When you study for hours, pray for hours do all those kinds of stuff you feel would help you in your personal and professional life.
Then suddenly, things happened. Your zeal began to grow cold. It was as if moth entered your life and is eating deep into your motivation and inspiration. You then began to feel that there is no need for continuing in those good practices. You then regard those times as good old days when everything was rosy. I tell you today:
You can catch the fire again! Yeah!!! You Can!
In this article, I have identified five blights that drain your inspiration and the antidotes that will enable you to catch the fire again.
Fear is probably the most immobilizing of the five. Most common are the fear of unknown, failure, change, and criticism. Fear slows you down and makes you unnecessarily cautious and careful, which can be of advantage to you. However, sometimes your fears are based on mere imaginations rather than on a real assessment of the risks in your reality. The fear can get so high that it will inhibit you from reaching the height you intended to get to. To catch the fire again you need to deal with your fear. Take a paper and write down those fears, from the least to the greatest. Then question those fears: “why am I afraid of this or that?” Use your reasoning and not your emotions in answering the questions. Some of those fears will gradually slip away.
Setting Wrong Goals:
According to Martha Beck we have an Essential Self and a Social Self. Essential Self is the part of you that is impulsive and creative and playful, the part that knows what is most vital to you. Social Self is the part of you that began developing from birth, which is built up by the rules of the society you belong. Growing up, we get stuffed by information coming from our Social selves and we work hard to conform to and impress our society. Martha Beck therefore holds that when we feel unmotivated, it is because we are setting goals based purely on what our Social Self wants and this is pulling us away from the direction our Essential Self wants us to take. At this point, our Essential Self use de-motivation to slow us down and to detach us from the toxic goals we may have set.
To catch the fire again, you should review your goals and understand that as much as we belong to society, we do not have to let our individuality to be swallowed.
You know those times you would wake up to your phone, scrolling up and down your social media handles. Or those times you are seated at work or classroom, feeling so bored, day-dreaming and having that cabin-feverish feeling, not feeling like to work but rather to hang out and gist. I think we all may have experienced that. I remember the time I would want to write an article but I end up spending about 20 minutes on social media doing nothing serious.
At such a time, take a break. I would usually leave my table and walk around, go and chat up a friend for some time and then come back. This often works. Thus, you will see yourself becoming more productive in your work after the time out.
Lack of Challenge:
Challenge is a crucial ingredient for motivation. When we are do not challenge ourselves on anything, we soon become demotivated. We are made to be living, growing and creative creatures, in constant need of challenges and opportunities so as to master new skills. Nevertheless, if the challenge is too big or too small, we can quickly get bored and struggle to stay motivated. To catch the fire again, you have to review your goals and objectives. Are they challenging you? Are they going to require you to grow in order to achieve them, or are you treading water in your comfort zone, doing only the things you know you can do? Try fine-tuning your goals to make them a bit more challenging, take on projects that will keep you on your toes and teach you new things. You can set up a duration for this challenge. Currently, I am on 100-day writing challenge, and I am learning a lot from it.
Lack of Clarity and Proper Planning:
You might have a wonderful goal and fully motivated but if you do not break down those goals into smaller bits, you might get confused and bored over them. If you do not plan yourself very well, you might get stuck with your goals. To catch the fire again, you need to break your goal into stages, use your calendar for timing where possible and set a reminder in your phone where need be. Make researches on projects you do not understand and seek help where need be, attend seminars and workshops and acquaint yourself with the necessary knowledge to achieve your goals.
In sum, when you feel down, demotivated and uninspired; when the fire in you seem to have been wrecked, remember it has not been completely smothered. You need to remove the ashes and damp logs, apply some gasoline. From there, add large and large pieces of firewood in the form of the antidote for the five blights enumerated above, until the campfire turns into a raging flame.
If your smart devices are a distraction to you, take them out. Seek to master your chosen profession, or ditch the desk and learn a trade, if you need a change. Begin a challenge today and you shall see the fire aglow again in your life.
Whichever fire you think has grown cold in your life, believe me… you can catch the fire again.